{"id":124,"date":"2011-03-14T10:58:00","date_gmt":"2011-03-14T14:58:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fs.wp.odu.edu\/efrydenl\/2011\/03\/14\/damning-my-soul\/"},"modified":"2011-03-14T10:58:00","modified_gmt":"2011-03-14T14:58:00","slug":"damning-my-soul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fs.wp.odu.edu\/efrydenl\/2011\/03\/14\/damning-my-soul\/","title":{"rendered":"Damning my soul&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This entry will take you back through yesterday&#8211; I&#8217;ll save today&#8217;s adventures for the next post.<\/p>\n<p>So, the morning started by heading down the hill from our host family&#8217;s house to the Rwanda Red Cross where Operation Smile was reading off the names of all the children who&#8217;d come from the countryside to Kigali to have cleft palettes and lips repaired. &nbsp;I actually found this whole encounter far more traumatizing than the genocide memorial&#8211; as bad as that may sound. &nbsp;Of all the potential candidates there, only half would fit in the one week the doctors would be available to work on them. &nbsp;The calling of the names meant that half those kids, with cleft lips like I could never have imagined in my wildest dreams, would not get the surgery that would help them integrate better into their communities. &nbsp;It was heart breaking.<\/p>\n<p>We didn&#8217;t stick around for the whole thing, and I ended up sitting on the hillside behind the event talking to two of the translators because I couldn&#8217;t handle the drama. &nbsp;About halfway through the name-calling, we headed off to Kibuye, which is situated in a tiny paradise on the lake that separates Rwanda and the DRC. &nbsp;I know I&#8217;m unlucky&#8211; I mentioned before that our vehicle broke down on the way to the safari&#8211; well, this time, we were rolling backward down a poorly paved road backwards in neutral until we could find a driveway to pull into. &nbsp;The driver turned around, and we coasted a bit more to a local (rural-ish) market. &nbsp;I think this market might be my very worst Rwandan experience. &nbsp;The children all seemed to want their photos taken, but afterwards kept asking for money. <\/p>\n<p>This is new to me&#8230;I&#8217;ve yet to be asked for money from a child just for taking a photo. &nbsp;I&#8217;m a bit disturbed that the only English they know is &#8220;Give me money&#8221; despite the fact that the President has mandated English as a national language in order to cut ties with France. &nbsp;So, we turned a corner of the market (large entourage of children behind) and I stumbled across a woman bent over her pitifully wilted vegetables with a baby strapped to her back. &nbsp;I snapped a photo- so much better than if she&#8217;d posed for me (Women&#8217;s Studies 514 class- that was for you!) and this old man ran up and started yelling at me while doing the Catholic cross thing across his chest (you know what I&#8217;m referring to&#8211; I don&#8217;t know what it&#8217;s called). &nbsp;He grabbed my arm and was holding me back as my professor tried to drag me away. &nbsp;There was a mob of kids packed around us, so it was difficult to get a sense of what was going on. &nbsp;I stuffed my camera back into my bag and she pried his fingers off my arm. &nbsp;We escaped back to our broken down vehicle to the safety of our driver who tends to be very protective of us. &nbsp;Ironic, I suppose, that four very capable and independent women who attended a gender conference just yesterday seeking equality for women would hide in the shadow of a man. &nbsp;I&#8217;ll remember it as a moment where we simply needed someone who spoke the native tongue&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;ve settled into this wonderful spiritual retreat on lake Kivu when we finally arrived (3 hours later). &nbsp;We have our own little porches that look out onto this huge lake&#8211; I&#8217;m definitely roughing it. &nbsp;The feeling of that man&#8217;s grasp, and the sounds of children pleading for money still lingers with me though. &nbsp;Capitalism has tainted even the most remote places of the world, I suppose.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This entry will take you back through yesterday&#8211; I&#8217;ll save today&#8217;s adventures for the next post. 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