Here is a link to a pamphlet In Support of Children distributes at it events. It provides a way to shape behavior by changing language and connections. It identifies “Words NOT to live by ” to eliminate the negative as well as “Words TO live by” to accentuate the positive. Please use as you see fit.
http://www.lxlombardo-lifexlearning.com/Articlces-for-pages/Words%20Not%20to%20Live%20By.pdf